Small bit of advice for you (without wanting to know anything about your family's financial situation): discount no school based on sticker price, especially private ones.
I paid far more for my older son to go to public Purdue than I did for my younger one to go to Notre Dame, even though ND's sticker price is much higher. Now, admittedly, Purdue was out of state, but with the academic scholarship he received, it was comparable in price to what it would have cost to go in-state to the University of Illinois (which gave no non-loan aid whatsoever). The younger one applied to a mixture of private and public, the privates all gave generous financial aid offers, the publics gave squat.
If you have your heart set on state U, fine. Go for it and good luck. But as I said, do not rule out any school until the all aid packages come in. You never know.