Every team has a few Durbins.
I'm all for upgrading the weakest areas, and the more the better.
I don't see a career 100 OPS+ player after his first two seasons in MLB who makes himself into a plus due to GG type defense and decent baserunning as the first or even second guy on the team to try and upgrade. His pre-arb cost and hopeful progression as he nears prime are two more reason I'd prefer to upgrade at SS and DH/LF than 3B. (He is third on my list for an upgrade on 0, but I think we can win with him, if we add DLC & Suzuki or Sato and Abrams.
Duran needs to go. I'd do everything to dump Story and Yoshida without downright DFA'ing them. (They'd be okay on the bench.) I'm not confident enough in handing Arias the SS job, but I know some here are. I don't think they believe in him out of a sense of complacency, but they actually think he's better than you and I do. Just like you thought Duran was better than I did. (I would call you complacent or not wanting better, because you believed in Duran. You just got that one wrong.)
Some of us value defense and positional comparative values more than others. They simply think Durbin, Abrea and Rafaela are better at helping us to win than you and Fred do. We all want the Sox to win, well all but you and Fred, and some think there are different ways to get there.
We've gone 8 years without a ring. I went over 30 years before 2004 and sounded a lot like you and Fred for 30 years. I literally said many time, "I'll take 10 straight last place finishes for just one ring." It sounds like you are thinking like that now. Fred was thinking like that in May.