Well, in most of our workplaces, we have occasion, while doing our jobs, to criticize someone. Teachers, for example, routinely give out bad grades. Supervisors give bad evaluations. We should not feel that if we do this, we will return to the office or the classroom and a bunch of a-holes will stand up and hurl f-bombs at us. These guys are acting like overgrown middle-school kids or dumb-ass frat-boys. And what is worse, NO ONE on the team is (or at least in this case 'was') willing to stand up like an adult and tell them to chill.