I guess I'm just one to cut to the core. In my mind Devers put the game in doubt with the bad throw. If he makes that throw the game is over, the Sox win, and nothing that happened afterward would have happened. End of story. Devers' errant throw could have cost them the win.
The same with the O's. The wild pitch may have cost the O's the win. If he doesn't make that wild pitch we don't know what else might have happened but it's very possible that the WP cost the O's the win.
I just don't understand why people have to obfuscate the facts with so many tangental things. It is what it is and there's nothing wrong with establishing blame, at least at the major league level. In fact, the threat of blame can be an huge motivator.